We should all know the basics when it comes to sex: Ask for consent, use protection at all times, respect your partner’s needs, and have fun. But knowing the simple steps to getting down and dirty doesn’t lead you to a gold mine. It’s the lesser-known facts that can not only make you smarter in bed but can also improve your sex life. Here, you can count on us by exploring some of the additional benefits that sex can give you.
1.Less Sex, More Work
The study asked 32,000 people to describe their sex and work habits. The researchers found that 36 percent of men and 35 percent of women who have sex only once a week plunge themselves into their work.
The more work you have, the more stress you have — and the more stress you have, the less sex you have. It’s a truly vicious cycle.
2. Sex Relieves Pain
Sex can make you feel good in more than one way. There’s the obvious physical benefit, and then the less obvious: pain relief. During arousal and orgasm, the hypothalamus in the brain releases the feel-good hormone oxytocin. Researchers at Rutgers University in New Jersey found that this surge of oxytocin may actually help women feel less pain, especially during menstruation.
3. Orgasm Improves Sperm Quality
Frequent sex may improve a man’s sperm quality, reduce DNA damage to sperm, and increase fertility. According to the European Study, men who had sex daily, or ejaculated daily, had more viable and higher quality semen after seven days than men who did not have sex. The study suggests this approach may help couples with mild fertility problems conceive.
4. Consider Safety
Sex is a chance for couples to explore their passions, connect with one another, and enjoy their relationship. It also has several additional benefits that are icing on the cake. Of course, to maintain a healthy sex life, don’t forget to practice safe sex. Use protection, especially if you’re not in a monogamous relationship, and get tested for sexually transmitted infections regularly.
5. The Average Sex Session Goes For 100-500 Thrusts
A 2017 survey of 3,836 people conducted by UK-based dating website SauceyDates.com found that couples in the United States stay in the game for about 17 minutes and 5 seconds. (That’s just intercourse, not foreplay.) It might seem strange that how long you last between the sheet. But hey, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to see how you stack up!
6. The Female Orgasm Is Three Times More Powerful
What can we say, women have some pretty serious orgasmic advantages in the bedroom. First of all, the typical female orgasm lasts about 20 seconds, Michael Reitano, MD, physician in residence at men’s health company Roman, previously told Health. That’s more than three times longer than the male experience, which clocks in at just 6 seconds. Women also have the upper hand when it comes to being able to have multiple orgasms and G-spot orgasms. Ah, it’s great to be a woman!
7. People Love To Think About Brad Pitt When They Masturbate
Sex toy company TENGA surveyed 13,000 people between ages 18 and 74 across the world and asked which celebs they think about while they’re under the sheets solo. Beyoncé made the top five list for most-masturbated-to female celebs (obviously), along with Jennifer Lawrence, Kim Kardashian, Taylor Swift, and Kylie Jenner.
For the men people fantasized about, the list consisted of Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Chris Hemsworth, Tom Cruise, and Chris Pratt. Did your celeb crush got his name?
8. Post-Sex Sadness Is Normal
Have you ever cried after sex, even really good sex? If the answer is yes, you might be relieved to hear that this actually is very common, and there’s even a name for it. Post-coital dysphoria (PCD) is characterized by intense feelings of sadness, anger, and distress after sex, most likely after orgasm. PCD can even happen after masturbating.
There isn’t enough research on PCD to know exactly why it occurs, but it has to do with surges in certain hormones. It can also come from past trauma stemming from a prior sexual assault. If you find yourself overwhelmed by the post-sex blues, seeing a therapist might be able to help you get to the bottom of it.
9. You Really Can Turn A Guy On With Your Voice
A 2014 study by Albright University found that women were able to consciously manipulate their voices, while counting from one to 10, to sound more attractive. (When the guys in the study tried to do the same, they actually came off sounding less attractive. Sorry dudes!)
What kind of voice change makes a woman sound sexier? Men are attracted to a deep, breathy voice, according to the researchers not because they prefer women with lower voices but because when a woman drops her voice, she’s signaling she’s interested—a hint men certainly aren’t blind to.
10. Your Partner May Be Fantasizing About Another During Sex
According to a British study, nearly half of all women fantasize about other men while in bed. The survey showed 46% of women fantasize about another person during sex with their partner, compared to 42% of men.
Who knows the real reason why straight women are thinking of someone else during sex, but maybe it’s because some of their partners aren’t fulfilling their needs in the bed.
11. Besides Men, Lesbians Have The Most Orgasms
A study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine surveyed 6,151 single adults by observing the connection between sexual orientation and how many times someone has an orgasm. For men, the results aren’t surprising. Straight men climax 85.5 percent of the time, gay men 84.7 percent of the time, and bisexual men climaxed 77.6 percent.
However, women showed the largest gap. Straight women achieved an orgasm 61.6 percent of the time, Lesbian women the most at 74.7 percent,, and bisexual women 58 percent.
No matter who you are sleeping with, get creative in bed and prolong foreplay. Women are more complex than men when it comes to sex, but that’s what makes it exciting.
12. “Cutting the lawn” Could Make You More Prone To Diseases
People who like to shave their pubic hair frequently are at a higher risk for syphilis, herpes, and HPV according to doctors at University of California, San Francisco.
The study was published in the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections and found that people who have shaved at least once are twice as likely to get infected, and those who shave frequently are four times as likely. Shaving any hair from your body causes small tears in the skin, and if you’re doing the deed right afterward, the open wounds make it easier for bacteria to get in.
“Pubic hair is there for a reason”. “It’s a mechanical barrier, like your eyebrows. It traps bacteria and debris. And there could be health consequences to removing it.”
13. Men In The U.S. Have Average Size Penises
Men’s penises in the U.S. are on average 5 inches long, landing in the middle of the spectrum compared to other countries. France takes the cake with some of the largest penises erecting at 6.2 inches and South Korea with the smallest at 3.6 inches.
Something to keep in mind is penis size doesn’t matter all that much, it’s all about how you use it that counts.
14. Lubricants Increases Your Chances Of Having An Orgasm
Multiple studies have shown that using lube increases your chance of having an orgasm, especially for women. Some of the best lubes are natural and simply enhance your experience, while others provide totally new sensations.
Don’t have name-brand lubrication on hand? Check your kitchen cabinets. Your go-to cooking and moisturizing fave, coconut oil, is also all-natural, anti-fungal, and great at providing long-term lubrication.
15. Breast Preference
In a bizarre experiment, 266 men were recruited from across the socioeconomic spectrum. They were each then shown pictures of five women with varying breast sizes and asked to rate their attractiveness.
By a wide margin, poorer men preferred the women with comically large breasts, while the rich guys were cool with less top-heavy girls. Interestingly, the correlation remained consistent across the scale—the poorest liked the biggest breasts, the middle-earners liked middle-sized breasts, and the top earners preferred tiny breasts.
16. If You Don’t Cuddle After Sex, Then You Can’t Satisfy Your Partner
Women have been demanding it for ages, but looks like men will have to finally agree to cuddle their partners in bed, after a rocking sex session and that’s all thanks to a University of Toronto study, which has proven that cuddling post-sex is as important to relationship satisfaction as the intercourse.
And, this satisfaction has everything to do with the release of oxytocin, which is produced when a couple indulges in a loving session of cuddling.
17. Sex With Male Penguin
Male penguins have been observed having sex with other male penguins, having sex with dead penguins and having sex with unwilling female penguins. When this was discovered in 1912, it was considered too lewd to publish.
18. Having Trouble Sleeping? Have Some Sex
If you want a good night’s sleep, then sex might actually be the best possible activity. The oxytocin produced by sex, combined with increased cortisol production, puts us into a state of optimum relaxation. And in women, the sex-fueled boost in estrogen can have a “positive impact” on REM sleep, according to a 2008 Journal of Women’s Health study.
Plus, sex leads to sleep which in turn leads to more sex. And a recent study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine found, “One extra hour of sleep was linked to greater sexual desire. Not only that, but women who had one more hours of sleep were 14% more likely to have sex with their partner the next day,” reported Mic’s Kate Hakala.
19. Which Country Has The Most Sex?
Despite the United States’ tendency to proclaim “we’re number one!” about, well, everything, when it comes to sexual frequency across the globe, it turns out they don’t come first, not even in the top 20. The U.S. falls at number 25 on this list, with a paltry rate of 52 percent per week of sex.
According to Durex’s Sexual Wellbeing Survey and Face of Global Sex report, which surveyed 26,000 people across 26 countries, age 16 and up, the top 5 countries that have the most sex per week are –
1. Greece – 87%
2. Brazil – 82%
3. Russia – 80%
4. China – 78%
5. Italy – 76%
20. Who Has The Most Children?
The world record for baby-making goes to an 18th-century Russian woman, Feodor Vassilyev who gave birth to 69 children in her lifetime (67 of whom survived infancy). This exhausted and unsung hero of a woman had 27 pregnancies, which included 16 sets of twins, 7 triplets, and 4 quadruplets.
21. You Should Probably Call It “Sexercise”
When you’re planning your daily workout, is sex on the agenda? It could be. Research out of the Université du Québec à Montréal measured the energy expended during sex versus during running. The results? We burn enough calories during an average sex session for it to be considered moderate exercise.
As Patti Britton, author of The Art of Sex Coaching, explained, during sex, “we’re releasing and contracting all the muscles within the body.” A romp may not replace your weekly kickboxing session. But if you’re looking for a quick way to get that heart rate up and burn some calories, feel free to try a few of the sex positions.
22. Getting Kinky Can Make You A Better Communicator
While BDSM may be “trendy” right now thanks to a certain film, the medical community thinks there may be some benefits to saying goodbye to the vanilla sex.
“Because doing BDSM means communicating with your partner, usually at an intense level because you are negotiating guidelines and discussing fantasies in depth, it gives you a greater sense of trust in your partner, and that leads to a greater sense of intimacy with them, and that, ultimately, is very psychologically balancing,” Gloria Brame, a sex therapist specializing in BDSM and author of Sex for Grown-Ups, told Mic previously.
23. Starting A Day With Morning Sex Can Be Good
While morning breath may be a bit of a deterrent, a morning session may put you in the right mindset for the day.
To the extent that it’s a form of exercise and, at orgasm, is linked with the release of prolactin and oxytocin, then it can help people to feel more bonded and satisfied all day long.
24. If You Want Better Skin, Sex May Be The Answer
“When you have sex, you’re bathing the skin in anti-inflammatory molecules such as oxytocin and beta endorphins,” which have anti-aging benefits, dermatologist Amy Wechsler told the Huffington Post.
That estrogen mentioned before? Well, like plenty of other chemicals released during sex, it is a multitasker, including fighting acne and aging. Oh, and sex increases blood circulation, according to Brame, and the extra oxygen can brighten your skin’s appearance. Yes, the “glow” might just be real.
25. Self-Esteem Boost
The sex and self-esteem boost has two sides: people who have sex feel good about themselves, and people have sex to feel good about themselves. A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior looked at the many reasons why humans have sex and found that one of the most common driving factors is the self-esteem boost many get from doing the deed.
These same people report that sex makes them feel powerful and more attractive. Also, some people in the study had more altruistic intentions and wanted their partner to feel good about themselves.
26. Golden Condom
There was an all girl band named Rockbitch that would throw a ‘Golden Condom’ into the audience. And whoever got it, male or female, was taken backstage to have sex with band members.
27. Love Drug
Breastfeeding invokes in the mother the neurochemical oxytocin, otherwise known as the “love drug,” which helps to focus her attention and affection on her baby. It’s now been theorized that men can make themselves more desirable by stimulating a woman’s breasts during foreplay and sex.
28. Sex At Work
56% of men claim to have had sex at work. The other 44% can only hope. They’re the ones that hear about their coworkers bumpin’ uglies in the office, and they’re extremely jealous about it.
29. Long Live Sperm!
After ovulation, a female’s egg is fertile for 24 to 48 hours, and a man’s sperm can live 72 hours inside the female body. Do the math, and be careful. There have been documented cases of live sperm discovered eight days after sex.
30. Food Improves Sex
There are some foods that boost your sex drive, one of them being black raspberries. This phytochemical-rich food enhances both libido and endurance. Watermelon contains citrulline amino acid which is good for the cardiovascular system. And it also helps in relaxing the blood vessels that increase your sex drive.
Health Benefits of Sex
1. Lowers Your Blood Pressure
Research suggests a link between sex and lower blood pressure, says Joseph J. Pinzone, MD. “One landmark study found that sexual intercourse specifically (not masturbation) lowered systolic blood pressure.” That’s the first number on your blood pressure test.
2. Lowers Heart Attack Risk
Intercourse certainly gets your heart beating, but that’s not where the heart health benefits end. A study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health Trusted found that sex can actually decrease a man’s risk for a fatal heart attack.
Researchers found that men who had sex two times or more each week were less likely to die from a heart attack than men who had sex less often. But the study found no relationship between the frequency of intercourse and the likelihood of dying from a stroke.
3. Lowers Prostate Cancer Risk
According to some research, men aged 50 and over who have frequent sex are less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer than men of their same age who do not have sex often.
A study published in the journal BJU International Trusted found that intercourse and masturbation may reduce the risk of prostate cancer in older men. Another study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association Trusted found that frequent ejaculations in a man’s 20’s may also help decrease his risk of prostate cancer.
4. Improves Sleep
You may nod off more quickly after sex, and for good reason. “After orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released, which is responsible for the feelings of relaxation and sleepiness”, says Sheenie Ambardar, MD.
5. Eases Stress
Intercourse may cut your stress level. A study published in the journal Biological Perspective asked participants to take part in a stressful activity, such as giving a speech or taking a complicated math quiz.
The participants who had vaginal intercourse before a stressful task had lower levels of stress and lower blood pressures. While the people who had no sex, those who masturbated, and those who had sexual contact without intercourse had more stress.
6. Sex Burns Calories
According to a study by researchers from the University of Quebec, getting busy between the sheets for an hour can burn as many calories as 30 minutes of jogging!
As per the study, men burn an average of 4.2 calories a minute during sex, while women burns about 3.1. Overall, men and women burn about 101 and 69 calories per session, respectively.
Some One-Liner Facts –
1. A 2014 UC Berkeley survey found that Arts and Humanities majors have most sex. While Science and Engineering majors had least sex, over half of the engineering major respondents were virgins.
2. The record for the biggest gang bang ever is held by porn star Lisa Sparks who had sex with 919 men.
3. There was a custom in ancient Babylon compelling all women at least once in their lives to go to the temple of Aphrodite and have sex with a stranger.
4. A Buddhist master named his penis “Thunderbolt of Flaming Wisdom,”. He told women that they could achieve Nirvana through sex with him and had them pay him in beer for sex rendered.
5. The sex noises in Rocket Queen by Guns N’ Roses were real. It was Axl Rose having sex with Steven Adler’s girlfriend in the studio.
6. The average man will ejaculate 18 quarts of sperm in his life. That’s just pretty gross actually.
7. The average erect penis size is 5.16 inches long. While the smallest is an impressive 1 cm (May God Bless Him!)
8. In the U.K., 90 percent of adults admitted to having some form of sexual interaction in the office.
9. Still have that condom from a while back? Toss it! The average shelf life of a latex condom is three to five years.
10. The world’s largest recorded penis belongs to 54-year-old Roberto Esquivel Cabrera Saltillo, Mexico, measuring 18.9 inches. But he is now registered as disabled because of his huge penis.
11. Candles are the phallic objects after fingers and vibrators, used most often by female masturbators. Unlit ones, hopefully.
12. When two people kiss, they exchange between 10 million and 1 billion bacteria.
13. The average vagina is three to four inches long but can expand by 200 percent when sexually aroused. Yes, it’s an optimistic organ.
14. Despite what men claim, only 15 percent have a penis longer than seven inches. Only 3 percent have a penis more than eight inches long.
15. The record for the most female orgasms is 134 in one hour. On the other side,the male world record is 16 in an hour.
16. Top 10 Most Sexually Satisfied Countries(in minutes) –
- Denmark – 44
- US – 41
- Finland – 39
- Canada – 37
- Sweden – 33
- Norway – 33
- United Kingdom – 33
- Germany – 32
- Czech Republic – 32
- Ireland – 31
- Sadly, Austria ranked last with only 27 min.
17. A woman may experience more powerful orgasms during her period. Because there is an increase in blood circulation around the genitals.
18. Gymnophoria is the sense that someone is mentally undressing you.
19. The vagina and the eye are self-cleaning organs. So you don’t have to put anything up the passage to clean it.
20. Studies have found that people who sleep on their stomachs report having more sex dreams. Why? Because sleeping in this position puts physical pressure on the genitals that gets transferred into our dreams.
21. Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.
22. People who have sex about three times sex per week look four to seven years younger.
23. 20 minutes of exercise before having sex with your husband will improve your sexual response.
24. 82% of the people who say they are sexually happy also say that their partner respects them during sex.